Friday, July 2, 2021

Day to Day......

 Hey everyone,

This is a forewarning to those who do not want to read about my struggles. It's going to get real.

I do not know how many of you know what I did in my past, but I feel like I can tell you now.




2009:

By this time, I have been homeless with an abusive boyfriend that I knew since high school for a year or two.  As we were homeless, someone had paid for a motel room for one night.  We needed to eat so we went to the motel room next door, where there was a couple drinking.  The older man had offered if I could outdrink him, I would win $50.  That may not seem like a lot and was a really stupid thing to do, but put yourself in my situation.  Anyways, I ended up in the hospital in a coma for almost 2 weeks because of a really high blood alcohol level.  I did not even know I was in the hospital until I woke up from my coma.

2010:

By this time, I have had my first son, while still with my abusive boyfriend, and still living from state to state.  Things that happened in 2010: not in this order.

  1. Gave my youngest son up for adoption when he was only 5 months old to give him a better life.
  2. Got in a car accident on a freeway in Salt Lake City with some friends.
  3. Lost my dad the same day I got in a car accident, got a call from the medical examiner confirming.  The same day my grandma Heaton passed 6 years earlier.
  4. Decided to take a Travel World USA job selling magazines in Chicago and Boston.
  5. Lost my job in Chicago about 2 weeks after traveling out there.
  6. Current boyfriend cheated on me.
  7. Second suicide attempt by taking too much prescribed medication. I was then taken to the hospital to pump my stomach.
2018:
I had my second son in 2014.  I said goodbye to him for the last time on July 6, 2018 and gave him up through CPS and the court system by signing away my parental rights voluntarily, on November 15, 2018. I moved to Michigan to live with a current boyfriend of mine on July 7, 2018.  I was in a psychiatric hospital for 4 days in August of 2018 from another suicide attempt.

I made it a couple months until my boyfriend that I was living with cheated on me, for the second time; the first time was when I was in the psychiatric hospital and then broke up with me 4 days before Christmas in 2018.  I went back down into a downward spiral of taking 44 different medications, drinking a bottle of vodka and a bottle of moonshine so I should not be alive today.

I went to a detox center for 5 days and then to rehab for about 7 months in Michigan where I am now about two and a half years sober because of their help and belief in me.  I came back home to Utah in August of 2019.

Every day that goes by I cannot help but think about the last few years and how I should not be alive today but somehow I still am.  Some days I don't really want to be here anymore, but then some days are really good and I cannot believe how lucky I am to still be alive either.

Still going to go day by day.

If you have read this far, thank you for listening.  I sincerely appreciate it.






Friday, November 20, 2020

21 Daily Habit Ideas for a Good Life

Let's jump right into this, shall we? The 21 Daily Habit Ideas for a Good Life is as follows:

1. Wake up and go to bed early.
    Top benefits of waking up early:
  1. More Productivity - getting up early gives you a kick start for the day ahead.  He is also more adept in taking better decisions, planning and achieving goals.
  2. Mental Fitness - one very significant benefit of waking up early is reduced stress level.  When you rise early, it eliminates the need to rush in the morning.
  3. Better Sleep Quality - getting up early is not something that should be followed irregularly but it needs to be established as a routine in your life.  This translates into better sleep quality as your body's internal clock adapts to your new sleep routine.
  4. Bigger Scores - a research conducted by Texas University has identified that students who were early risers scored better grades than those who were late to rise.  Their GPA's were higher than the latter.
  5. Brighter World - getting up early instills you with positivity.
    Top Benefits of going to bed early:
  1. Benefits for health - protect the heart, reduce the risk of cancer, energy boost and improve the immune system.
  2. Physical Benefits - improvement in skin conditions and controlled body weight.
  3. Mental Benefits - confidence, relieve stress and anxiety, a good memory and happiness.
2. Make your bed every morning.
    It may improve your sleep quality.  Making your bed each morning could make you more productive.

3. Drink a big glass of water as soon as you wake up.
    5 Reasons Water should be your go-to morning drink:
  1. Increases your energy levels.
  2. Boosts your metabolism.
  3. Helps ease aches and pains.
  4. Clear complexion and more radiant skin.
  5. Fight off toxins.
4. Workout until you sweat.
    The primary benefit of sweating when you work out is that sweating helps cool your body down.
    Exercise and high temperatures cause your body to heat up.  Your body then responds with sweat.

5. Morning & Evening Meditation.
    People use morning meditation for several key reasons: focus, center myself and energize.
    Evening meditation is mainly to quiet the mind and reflect, setting you up for a relaxed and thought 
    free night of sleep.

6. Put on clothes that make you feel good, even if you're at home today.
    Cheerful colors can boost your body and energy, while darker colors create a more relaxed and low
    stress feel.  If you're having a bad day, throw on your brightest color and it can instantly improve
    your mental state. 

7. Write out your goals to remind yourself what you're working for.
    Writing your goals down not only forces you to get a clear on what, exactly, it is that you want to 
    accomplish, but doing so creates a part in motivating you to complete the tasks necessary for your
    success.

8. Make a plan for your day.
    If you plan your days the night before you, you'll not only get more done in less time.  You'll also 
    experience more flow.  If you give yourself a basic framework for your days, you'll be much more 
    likely to pack your days with useful work that adds value to your life.

9. Spend an hour on your ONE THING.
    Spend the first hour of your day on activities that add meaning to your life.  The first hour of your 
    day can often dictate how your day turns out.

10. Have a green smoothie.
    Potential health benefits of Green Smoothies:
  1. Digestive health.  The insoluble fiber in leafy greens helps food to pass through your digestive system, reducing issues like diarrhea, constipation and bloating.
  2. Bone Strength.
  3. Immunity Support.
  4. Lower Risk of a Chronic Disease.
  5. Lower Cholesterol
11. Do one thing you've been putting off.
    Another word for procrastinating.  It may be that you either have too many tasks or don't truly                acknowledge the differing importance of each task.  Time is spent switching constantly from one            task to another, or spending too much time deciding what to do.

12. One Hour of Learning: books, podcasts, online courses.
    Changing things up to challenge yourself is a great form of experimentation.  The more you can
    step outside of the box and think creatively the easier it is for your brain to come up with 
    innovative ideas.

13. Come up with 5 new ideas.
    Three simple, regular practices that will help you come up with new ideas.
  1. Make a date with yourself.
  2. Read about creative lives.
  3. Get in touch with your "beginner's mind."
14. Post a thought online - a short blog post, picture or new idea.
    People may behave differently online then they do in person - the large audience is invisible, so many
    feel protected by their screens.  This can be a positive thing, like someone feeling more confident 
    to open up and be themselves.

15. Go outside for a walk.
    Six benefits of walking outdoors everyday:
  1. Your mood will improve.
  2. You'll feel more creative.
  3. You'll lower your risk of lung cancer.
  4. Your skin will look younger.
  5. You'll increase your vitamin D levels.
  6. You'll have more fun.
16. Give a smile or a compliment to a stranger.
    Benefits of complimenting a stranger:
  1. It causes you to break out of your comfort zone.
  2. It's nice to be nice.
  3. You start a trickle - down effect.
  4. It gets easier to make spontaneous decisions.
17. Declutter one item everyday.
    Removing an item a day isn't just about getting your messy house under control, it's also a proactive 
    way to streamline - and maintain - your everyday housekeeping endeavors.  Not only will it make 
    tidying up from time-to-time that much easier, it'll help keep your home consistently neat and clutter
    free.

18. Send someone you know a nice message.
    Effective communication depends on clarity.  If you are all over the map, each person you are trying
    to reach will remember something different.  At the worst, the audience will reach a conclusion other 
    than what you intended.  Focusing your communication requires the development and consistent use
    of key messages.

19. GRATITUDE. Think of 3 things you appreciate in your life.
    Gratitude helps people feel more positive emotions, relish good experiences, improve their health, 
    deal with adversity and build strong relationships.  People feel and express gratitude in multiple             ways.

20. Review the day: what worked and what didn't?
    By reviewing your main goals daily, you keep them at the forefront of your mind.  This way, you 
    ensure you direct your time, energy and attention at the most important thing every single day - 
    making it much easier to say 'no' to other opportunities that could derail your focus.

21. Make a list for tomorrow to clear your mind before you sleep.
    It might sound counterintuitive, but researchers report that writing a to-do list just before you hit the
    pillow might send you off to sleep more quickly.


Hey all, I hope you enjoyed reading this as much as I enjoyed writing it.  I am going to post another blog either later today or tomorrow evening.  Keep an eye out and always keep an open mind.




Monday, October 19, 2020

Adoption 101: Birth Mother Myths & Realities

Hey everyone,

I just want to start off this blog post by saying that I have two sons, ages 10 and 6 that are in adoption, so while you are reading this, I would like to advise you to keep an open mind. Thank you.


Myth: Birth mothers are frequently teen moms.

Reality: Expectant mothers come from a variety of backgrounds, some are in their 20s or older and many already have a child they are raising.


Myth: Birth mothers don't love or want their children.

Reality: Placing a child for adoption is the ultimate act of love for a mother.  It shows that she wants to give the child a better life than she is equipped to give.


Myth: If a birth mother hadn't made an adoption plan, she would have had an abortion.

Reality: Though it's impossible to know exactly what a woman would have done under different circumstances, most women view adoption as an alternative to parenting, not abortion.


Myth: Birth mothers would have been unsuitable mothers.

Reality: Simply deciding to place a child for adoption is a mark of a great mother looking to give her child the best life possible.


Myth: Adoption is the easy way out for birth mothers.

Reality: The decision to place a child for adoption is not an easy one to make and can be very emotional for the birth mother.


Myth: Birth mothers move on and forget about their children after the adoption.

Reality: Most birth mothers will think of their children often, if not daily, and today many birth mothers maintain contact with the child and his or her adoptive family long after placement.

Thursday, August 20, 2020

25 Songs - 25 Days Challenge: Days 8 - 25

 Day 8: A song that reminds you of your "first love".

I picked the song 'I look so good (without you)' by Jesse James Decker because after he broke up with me, I didn't feel like myself, but then again I was only 16 years old.  How else was I supposed to feel??

I Look So Good (Without You) by Jesse James Decker

Day 9: A song that makes you hopeful.

I chose the song 'Stand By Me' by Ben E. King simply because I want someone to stand by my side.

Stand By Me by Ben E. King

Day 10: A song by your favorite band.

I would have to choose 'Make Me Wanna Die' by The Pretty Reckless just because the woman who sings this is the same girl who played Cindy Lou Who in the original 'The Grinch Who Stole Christmas' movie.

Make Me Wanna Die by The Pretty Reckless

Day 11: A song on the soundtrack of your favorite movie.

That's an easy one, anyone who knows me, knows I LOVE the movie Rent.  I picked the song 'La Vie Boheme' because it is again, an upbeat song, that you just can't not not listen to. I promise.

La Vie Boheme from the soundtrack of the movie Rent

Day 12: The last song you heard.

The last song I listened to before starting this blog tonight was 'Best Days of Your Life' by Kellie Pickler.  Pretty self - explanatory.

Best Days of Your Life by Kellie Pickler

Day 13: A song that reminds you of a former friend.

I am not going to name names but this person knows who she is.  I picked the song 'Fucking Perfect' by Pink because none of us are and it's really stupid to pretend to be, when you, yourself, even know you're not perfect.

Fucking Perfect by Pink

Day 14: A song that reminds you of your boyfriend.

Believe me when I tell you this, I really tried only picking one song, but at least I narrowed it down to only 5 songs, am I right?? LOL

The songs are:

She's In Love With The Boy by Trisha Yearwood

In Case You Didn't Know by Brett Young

Speechless by Dan & Shay

For A Lifetime by Ryann Darling

I Choose You by Ryann Darling

Day 15: A song you love singing along to.

I chose the song 'Stronger (What Doesn't Kill You)' by Kelly Clarkson because I am getting stronger against my old addiction/old me everyday and I am worth it.  I can now tell that to myself in the mirror.

Stronger (What Doesn't Kill You) by Kelly Clarkson

Day 16:  A song that has made you cry.

Definitely, for sure, 'Whiskey Lullaby' by Brad Paisley ft. Allison Krauss.  I dare you to watch the video and not cry and really listen to the words.

Whiskey Lullaby by Brad Paisley ft. Allison Krauss

Day 17: A song that makes you want to dance.

I chose 'The Champion' by Carrie Underwood ft. Ludacris because who doesn't want to dance to that song.  You tell me.

The Champion by Carrie Underwood ft. Ludacris

Day 18: A song you love but rarely listen to.

I chose the song 'I Heart Hello Kitty' by Blood On The Dance Floor because it's a good sexual song but I rarely listen to it because the language they use is not appropriate.  Definitely do NOT listen to this with children around.

I Heart Hello Kitty by Blood On The Dance Floor

Day 19: The first song alphabetically in your iPod iTunes.

Music Again by Adam Lambert

Day 20: The last song alphabetically in your iPod iTunes.

Haru Haru by BigBang

Day 21: Your favorite song.

I chose 'Uptown Funk' by Bruno Mars ft. Mark Ronson. This is both me and my mother's favorite song of all time. 

Uptown Funk by Bruno Mars ft. Mark Ronson

Day 22: A song that someone has sung to you.

I am not going to mention any names but this person is a really good friend of mine and he sung this song to me a really long time ago, at least 6 or 7 years ago. The song is 'Perfect Two' by Auburn.

Perfect Two by Auburn

Day 23: A song you cannot stand to listen to.

There are actually two that I absolutely CANNOT and WILL NOT listen to. They are 'Baby Shark' and 'Mamma Mia'.  I don't know why those two, but it just gets on my nerves real bad.

Mamma Mia by Abba

Baby Shark Original - Extended Version

Day 24: A song that you danced to with your best friend.

This was a former best friend from when I was a junior in high school and again, I am not going to name names, but the song is 'Girls Just Wanna Have Fun' by Cyndi Lauper. 

Girls Just Wanna Have Fun by Cyndi Lauper

Day 25: A song you could listen to all day without getting tired of it.

I have been listening to this song every single day and honestly, if I had to, I could listen to it all day, it's just that good of a song.  I chose 'Life's About To Get Good' by Shania Twain.

Life's About To Get Good by Shania Twain



Friday, July 31, 2020

25 Songs - 25 Days Challenge: Days 2 - 7

Day 2:  A song that reminds you of your most recent ex-boyfriend.

I picked this song because as you listen to the lyrics it sounds like stuff I would imagine doing to him if I could without going to jail lolol :) The song is One More Minute by Weird Al Yankovic.



Day 3: A song that reminds you of one or both of your parents.

I decided to pick two songs in remembrance of my dad who passed away 10 years ago.  One is Beth by Kiss and one is Sweet Child O' Mine by Guns N' Roses.  I know, I know, both by rock bands, but if you give them a listen, you will see what I mean.



Day 4: A song that calms you down.

I picked Today is Your Day by Shania Twain because it is upbeat yet the words ring true.  Even the words say, brush yourself off, no regrets, this is as good as it gets.


Day 5:  A song that is often stuck in your head.

I am gonna name two songs just because they are both stuck in my head and I listen to them both every single day.  The first is Zombie by Bad Wolves and the second one is Nightmare by Avenged Sevenfold. The names might sound bad to some people who read this and the tune of the song might turn you off, but if you are ever in a mood where you really don't care, these are your songs.



Day 6:  A song that reminds you of a best friend.

I picked out Behind Blue Eyes by Limp Bizkit for my best friend Valerie Manwill.  I hope I did her justice.


Day 7:  A song that reminds you of the past summer.

I picked out the song Rehab by Rihanna because I was literally in rehab last summer.  Nothing else to say unless you ask.


Sunday, July 26, 2020

25 Songs - 25 Days Challenge - Day 1

Day 1: A song from my childhood. 

That would have to be Britney Spears - You Drive Me Crazy. 

I picked  this song because me and my sisters along with some neighbors when we were little used to jump on a trampoline singing that song at the top of our lungs.  It was so hilarious, makes me feel like a child again.

Britney Spears - You Drive Me Crazy


Tuesday, February 11, 2020

Awesome Reading and Recipes

As I was reading Joanne Fluke's books on Hannah Swensen's Mysteries, I came across a whole bunch of delicious recipes that I would like to share with all of you.  These first four came from her book called 'Christmas Cake Murder'.

Honey Apple Crisp
Preheat oven to 350 degrees F., rack in the middle position.

Graham crackers to line the baking pan
8 to 9 cups thinly sliced apples ( I used a combination of Granny Smith and Gala, peeled, cored, and sliced as thin as a quarter.)
1 Tablespoon lemon juice
1/2 cup white (granulated) sugar
1/2 teaspoon cinnamon
1/4 teaspoon nutmeg
1/4 teaspoon cardamom
1 cup honey ( I used orange honey, but clover is also good - spray inside of measuring cup with Pam or another nonstick cooking spray to keep the honey from sticking to the inside of the cup.)
1/2 cup brown sugar ( Pack it down when you measure it.)
1 cup all-purpose flour ( Pack it down when you measure it.)
1/2 teaspoon salt
1/2 cup ( 1 stick, 4 ounces, 1/4 pound) salted butter

1. Prepare a 9-inch by 13-inch baking pan by spraying the inside with Pam or another nonstick cooking spray, or buttering it.  Line the bottom with graham crackers.
2. Spread the apple slices over the bottom of a baking dish.
3. Sprinkle the apples with the lemon juice.
4. Mix the white sugar with the cinnamon, nutmeg and cardamom.
5. Drizzle the honey over the top of the apples as evenly as possible.
6. In a separate bowl, mix the brown sugar with the flour and the salt.
7. Melt the butter in a microwave-safe bowl or measuring cup for 30 seconds on HIGH.  Leave it in the microwave for an additional minute and then check it to see if it's melted.  If it's not, heat it on HIGH for increments of 20 seconds, followed by 20-second standing times until it is.

Michelle's Note: You can also melt the butter over LOW heat on the stove top if you prefer, but stir it constantly, and be careful not to brown it.

8. Let the butter cool on a cold burner or a towel on the counter for 5 minutes and then pour it over the brown sugar, flour, and salt mixture in your bowl.
9. Use your impeccably clean hands to mix everything together until the mixture resembles coarse gravel.
10. Sprinkle the mixture over the top of your pan as evenly as possible.
11. Bake your Honey Apple Crisp at 350 degrees F. for 50 minutes, or until the apples are tender.  You can test for tenderness by sticking a fork into the center of the baking pan.  If you encounter resistance from the apple slices, bake it for another 10 minutes and then test again.  When your fork goes all the way to the bottom of the pan and the crust on top is a deep golden brown, your Honey Apple Crisp is done.
12. Honey Apple Crisp is wonderful served either warm or cold.  Serve in dessert dishes.
13. If you'd like to dress up your Honey Apple Crisp a bit, top each dessert bowl with a scoop of vanilla ice cream or a generous dollop of sweetened whipped cream.
Yield: Serves at least 12 unless everyone at the table wants more.

Cashew Butter Blossom Cookies
Preheat oven to 350 degrees F., rack in the middle position.

2 cups white (granulated) sugar
1 cup salted butter (2 sticks) softened
1/2 cup cashew butter
2 teaspoons vanilla extract
1/8 cup (2 Tablespoons) molasses ( I used Grandma's Molasses)
1/2 teaspoon baking soda
1 teaspoon baking powder
1/2 teaspoon salt
1/2 cup finely chopped salted cashews
2 large eggs, beaten ( just whip them up in a glass with a fork)
4 cups all-purpose flour ( Pack it down in the cup when you measure it)
13-ounce bag Hershey's Kisses (or milk chocolate stars)

1. Prepare your cookie sheets by spraying them with Pam or another nonstick cooking spray or lining them with parchment paper.

Hannah's 1st Note: This recipe is easiest to make if you use an electric mixer to prepare this dough.

2. Place the white sugar in the bowl of an electric mixer.
3. Add the softened butter and mix on LOW until it's well blended, then beat on MEDIUM speed until the mixture is light and fluffy.
4. Mix in the half-cup of cashew butter and beat on MEDIUM speed until it is well incorporated.

Hannah's 2nd Note: Cashew butter is easier to measure if you spray the inside of the measuring cup with Pam or another nonstick cooking spray and also spray the blade of your rubber spatula.  Pack the cashew butter down in the cup and level it off with the prepared spatula.  The cooking spray makes it easier to get all the cashew butter out of your measuring cup.  You can also use this pre-sprayed cup to measure the molasses.

5. Mix in the vanilla extract and the molasses.  Beat until they are well incorporated.
6. With the mixer running on LOW speed, sprinkle in the baking soda, baking powder, and salt.  Mix well.
7. Add the finely chopped cashews to the bowl and mix them in on LOW.
8. Add the beaten eggs and mix those in thoroughly.
9. Mix in the all-purpose flour in half-cup increments, mixing after each addition.

Hannah's 3rd Note: If you mix in your 4 cups of flour all at once, you may find it spews out of the bowl when you turn on your mixer and you end up with flour all over your kitchen floor!

10. Mix until all your ingredients are thoroughly blended and then shut off your mixer and scrape down the bowl.
11. Take the bowl out of the mixer.  Scrape down the sides of the bowl with your rubber spatula and give your Cashew Butter Blossom Cookie dough a final stir by hand.
12. Let the dough firm up for a few minutes on your kitchen counter as you sit down and enjoy a couple of the Hershey's Kisses or chocolate stars.
13. Form the dough into walnut-sized balls and arrange them on a greased cookie sheet, 12 to a standard-size sheet.
14. Press the Hershey's Kisses or chocolate stars, point up, into the middle of your cookie balls, flat side down.  They'll look like flowers or blossoms after they're baked, and that's why they're called Cashew Butter Blossom Cookies.
15. Bake at 350 degrees F. for 10 to 12 minutes, or until the edges are just beginning to turn golden.  (Don't worry - the chocolate won't melt in that length of time.)
16. Cool your cookies on the cookie sheet for 2 minutes and then remove them to wire racks to finish cooling.

Hannah's 4th Note: If you used parchment paper on your cookie sheets, just pull it off the cookie sheet, cookies and all, and onto a wire rack.  The cookies can cool right on the paper.

Yield:  Makes approximately 8 dozen delicious cookies, depending on the size of the cookie dough You can cut this recipe in half, but if you do, use 1/2 teaspoon of baking soda and 1/2 teaspoon of baking powder.

Hannah's 5th Note: If you have any chocolate stars or Hershey's Kisses left over, the baker deserves another treat!

Ultimate Butterscotch Bundt Cake
Preheat oven to 350 degrees F., rack in the middle position.

4 large eggs
1/2 cup vegetable oil
1/2 cup cold whole milk
8-ounce (by weight) tub of sour cream ( I used Knudsen)
1 box of white cake mix with or without pudding in the mix, the kind that makes a 9-inch by 13-inch cake or a 2-layer cake ( I used Duncan Hines)
5.1-ounce package of instant butterscotch pudding mix ( I used Jell-O, the kind that makes 6 half-cup servings)
12-ounce (by weight) bag of butterscotch chips (11-ounce package will do, too - I used Nestle.)

1. Prepare your cake pan.  You'll need a Bundt pan that has been sprayed with Pam or another nonstick cooking spray and then floured.  To flour a pan, put some flour in the bottom, hold it over your kitchen wastebasket, and tap the pan to move the flour all over the inside of the pan.
2. Crack the eggs into the bowl of an electric mixer.  Mix them up on LOW speed until they are a uniform color.
3. Pour in the half-cup of vegetable oil and mix it in with the eggs on LOW speed.
4. Add the half-cup of whole milk and mix it in on LOW speed.
5. Scoop out the container of sour cream, and add the sour cream to your bowl.  Mix that in on LOW speed.
6. When everything is well combined, open the box of dry cake mix and sprinkle it on top of the liquid ingredients in the bowl of the mixer.  Mix that in on LOW speed.
7. Add the package of instant butterscotch pudding and mix that in, again, on LOW speed.
8. Finally, chop up the butterscotch chips in a food processor or blender and then sprinkle them into the mixer.  Mix in the chips on LOW speed.
9. Shut off your mixer, scrape down the sides of the bowl, and give your batter a final stir by hand.
10. Use a rubber spatula to transfer the cake batter to the prepared Bundt pan.
11. Smooth the top of your cake with the rubber spatula and place it in the oven.
12. Bake your Ultimate Butterscotch Bundt Cake at 350 degrees F. for 55 minutes.
13. Before you take your cake out of the oven, test it for doneness by inserting a cake tester, thin wooden skewer, long toothpick midway between the sides of the circular ring.  (You can't insert it in the center of the cake because that's where the crater is!)
14. If the tester comes out clean, your cake is done.  If there is still unbaked batter clinging to the tester, shut the oven door and bake your cake in 5-minute increments until it tests done.
15.  Once your cake is done, take it out of the oven and set it on a cold stove top burner or a wire rack.
16. Let your cake cool for 20 minutes in the pan, but no longer than that.
17. Use your impeccably clean fingers to pull the sides of the cake away from the pan.  Don't forget to do the same for the crater in the middle.
18. Tip the Bundt pan upside down on a platter and drop it gently on a towel on the kitchen counter.  Do this until the cake falls out of the pan and rests on the platter.
19. Cover your Ultimate Butterscotch Bundt Cake loosely with foil and refrigerate it for at least one hour.  Overnight is even better.
20. Frost your cake with Cool Whip Butterscotch Frosting. ( Recipe and instructions follow.)
Yield: At least 10 pieces of decadent butterscotch cake.  Serve with tall glasses of ice-cold milk or cups of strong coffee. 

Cool Whip Butterscotch Frosting
This recipe is made in the microwave.

6-ounce (by weight) bag of butterscotch chips (or measure one cup of chips, which is roughly half of an 11-ounce by weight bag)
8-ounce (by weight) tub of FROZEN Cool Whip ( Do Not Thaw!)

Hannah's 1st Note: Make sure you use the original Cool Whip, not the sugar free or the real whipped cream type of Cool Whip.

1. Place the cup of butterscotch chips in your food processor or blender.  Chop them into smaller pieces so that they will melt faster.
2. Place the Cool Whip in a microwave-safe bowl.
3. Add the chopped butterscotch chips to the bowl.
4. Microwave the bowl on HIGH for 1 minute and then let it sit in the microwave for an additional minute.
5. Take the bowl out of the microwave and stir to see if the butterscotch chips have melted.  If they haven't, heat in 30-second intervals with 1-minute standing times until you succeed in melting the chips.
6. Take the bowl out of the microwave and let it sit on the counter top or on a cold stove top burner for 15 minutes.  This standing time will thicken the icing.
7. When the time is up, give the bowl a stir and remove your cake from the refrigerator.  Frost your Ultimate Butterscotch Bundt Cake with the frosting and don't forget the crater in the middle.  You don't need to frost all of the way inside the crater.  That's almost impossible.  Just frost an inch or so down the cavity.
8. Return your cake to the refrigerator for at least 30 minutes before cutting it and serving it to your guests.

Hannah's 2nd Note: You can also use this icing on cookies.  It would be wonderful on any cookie with a vanilla, chocolate, or butterscotch taste.  I especially like it on Old Fashioned Sugar Cookies and Cocoa-Crunch Cookies.  Just make sure that the cookies are cool when you frost them.

Yield: This frosting will frost a batch of cookies, a 9-inch by 13-inch flat cake, a Bundt cake, or a round two-tier layer cake.

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These next recipes come from Hannah Swensen's Mysteries.  I think these four recipes are some of the most decadent I have ever heard of.  They are from Joanne Fluke's book 'Christmas Caramel Murder'.  Hannah has a shop called The Cookie Jar.

Gingerbread Pancakes

1 large egg
1 teaspoon vanilla extract
1/4 cup molasses (Michelle used Grandma's)
1 and  1/2 cups water
1 teaspoon ground ginger
1 teaspoon cinnamon
1/4 teaspoon ground cardamom (if you don't have it, just add a little more cinnamon)
1/4 teaspoon nutmeg (freshly grated is best, of course)
1 and 1/2 cups all-purpose flour (pack it down in the cup when you measure it)
1/4 teaspoon baking soda
1 teaspoon baking powder
1/2 teaspoon salt

1. In a small bowl, whisk a large egg with the vanilla extract.
2. Add the quarter-cup of molasses and whisk that in.
3. Add the cup and a half of water and whisk that in.

Hannah's 1st Note: You'll be adding the spices next, but Michelle says that easier if you mix them together first.  She uses a disposable paper bowl.  Then you can add the spice mixture to your egg mixture all at once.

4. Combine the ground ginger, cinnamon, cardamom, and nutmeg.  Stir them around until they're mixed.
5. Add the spice mixture to your egg mixture and whisk everything together until they're thoroughly combined.

Hannah's 2nd Note: Michelle says to remind you to rinse off your whisk and put it in the sink.  If you let the egg dry on the whisk, it's really difficult to get clean.

6. Get out your favorite stirring spoon.  You'll be using it from here on out.
7. In a larger mixing bowl, combine the flour, baking soda, baking powder, and salt.  Mix them until they're well incorporated.
8. Add the egg mixture to the flour mixture and stir until just incorporated.  The batter may be a little lumpy.  That's okay.  You'll stir it again before you fry it.

Hannah's 3rd Note: If you've made pancakes from scratch before, you know that they're tastier if you "season" them by covering the mixing bowl with plastic wrap and refrigerating and batter overnight.  This is why I always mix my batter the night before.

9. When you are ready to fry your pancakes, prepare your griddle or your frying pan by oiling it before you heat it, or using a mixture with equal parts of oil and butter.
10. Set your heat at MEDIUM-HIGH.  You can test your frying surface to see when it's ready by putting a few drops of water on the surface.  If the droplets of water skitter around and then evaporate, your pan is the right temperature to fry pancakes.
11. If you're using a griddle, you may want to pour on your pancakes rather than use a spoon.  Simply transfer the batter to a pitcher and use that to pour.  If you'd prefer to dip the large spoon or a small cup into the bowl and transfer the batter to the griddle or the frying pan that way, that's fine, too.  (Michelle used my quarter-cup plastic measure that has a little spout on the side.  I measured this once, and when she empties the cup of batter in the frying pan, approximately 3 Tablespoons come out of the measuring cup.)
12. Fry your pancakes until they're puffed and they look a bit dry around the edges.  If you look closely, little bubbles will form at the edges.  If you're not sure they're done, lift one edge with a spatula a take a peek.  It will be golden brown on the bottom when it's ready to flip.
13. Turn your pancakes and wait for the other side to fry.  Again, you can test your pancake by lifting it slightly with a spatula and peeking to see if it's golden brown.
14. If you don't have people sitting at your table waiting to eat breakfast, you can fry all your pancakes now and keep them warm until everyone comes to the table by separating them with layers of foil or paper towels, placing them in a 9-inch by 13-inch cake pan, covering the pan loosely with another piece of foil, and keeping them in a warm oven set at the lowest temperature.
15. Serve with plenty of soft butter, and your choice of honey, dark Karo syrup, or molasses.  These Gingerbread Pancakes are also good buttered, spread with jam, and topped with a dollop of sour cream.

Red Raspberry Muffins
Preheat oven to 375 degrees F., rack in the middle position.

Muffin Batter:
3/4 cup (1 and 1/2 sticks, 6 ounces) salted butter
1 cup white (granulated) sugar
2 beaten eggs (just whip them up in a glass with a fork)
2 teaspoons baking powder
1/2 teaspoon cinnamon
1/2 teaspoon salt
2 and 1/4 cups all-purpose flour (pack it down in the cup when you measure it)
1/2 cup whole milk
1/2 cup seedless raspberry jam
1 cup fresh OR frozen raspberries

Crumb Topping:
1/2 cup white (granulated) sugar
1/2 teaspoon cinnamon
1/3 cup all-purpose flour (pack it down in the cup when you measure it)
1/4 cup (1/2 stick, 2 ounces) salted butter, softened

1. Grease the bottom only of a 12-cup muffin pan (or line the cups with double cupcake papers - that's what I do at The Cookie Jar.)
2. Melt the butter in a bowl or measuring cup in the microwave. (This takes me about a minute in the microwave on HIGH.)
3. Set the melted butter on the kitchen counter to cool.
4. Measure out the sugar in a large bowl.
5. Mix in the beaten eggs.
6. Add the baking powder, cinnamon, and salt. Mix thoroughly.
7. Cup your hands around the bowl containing the melted butter. If it's cool enough so it won't cook the eggs, stir it into your mixing bowl with the rest of your ingredients.
8. Add half of the flour to your bowl and mix it in.
9. Add the whole milk to your bowl and mix that in.
10. Add the other half of the flour to your bowl ad mix until everything is incorporated.
11. Mix in the half cup of seedless raspberry jam.
12. If you're using a mixer, take the bowl out of the mixer, scrape down the sides of the bowl, and give the contents a stir with a spoon by hand.
13. Add the raspberries and mix them in by hand.
14. Fill the prepared muffin cups three-quarters full and set them aside.  If you have muffin batter left over, grease the bottom of a small tea-bread loaf pan and fill it with your remaining batter.
15. Make the crumb topping by mixing the sugar, cinnamon, and flour in a small bowl with a fork.  Add the softened butter and cut it in until it's crumbly.  (You can also do this in a food processor with chilled butter that you've cut into chunks.  Use the steel blade in an on-and-off motion until the resulting mixture resembles coarse gravel.)
16. Fill the remaining space in the muffin cups with the crumb topping.  If you had batter left over and used a tea-bread pan, reserve some topping to sprinkle over that.
17. Bake the muffins at 375 degrees F. degree oven for 25 to 30 minutes.  The tea-bread muffin should bake from 5 to 10 minutes longer than the muffins, but test it with a cake tester or long toothpick when your muffins are done.  Insert the tester of your loaf.  If your tester comes out clean, your tea-bread is done.)
18. When your muffins are baked, take them out of the oven and set the muffin pan on a wire rack or a cold stove top burner to cool for at least 30 minutes.  (The muffins need to cool in the pan for easy removal.) Then just tip them out of the cups, or lift them out by the edges of the cupcake papers.  Serve with salted butter for those who want it, and enjoy.
19. These muffins are wonderful when they're slightly warm, but the raspberry flavor with intensify if you store them in a covered container overnight.
Yield: 12 delicious muffins with a little batter left over for several more muffins or a small loaf of tea-bread.

Butterscotch Crunch Candy
You do NOT need a candy thermometer to make this candy.

half of a 15-ounce bag of salted stick pretzels (the thin stick kind - I used Snyder's)
14-ounce can of sweetened condensed milk ( I used Eagle Brand - do NOT use Evaporated Milk)
1/4 teaspoon salt
2 cups (12 ounces) butterscotch chips ( I use Nestle)

Hannah's 1st Note: You can make this candy in a heavy saucepan on the stove over MEDIUM heat or in a large, microwave-safe bowl in the microwave on HIGH.  Either will work just fine.

1. Put the pretzels into a bowl, and break them into pieces.  You don't have to be exact, but try to make sure each pretzel is broken into at least 4 pieces.

Hannah's 2nd Note: When Lisa and I made this candy at The Cookie Jar, we put the pretzels in a large, seal-able, plastic bag and crush them up with a rolling pin until there are no large pieces left.

2. Prepare an 8-inch square brownie pan by lining it with a piece of heavy-duty foil that is large enough to stick up at least 2 inches above the sides of your pan.
3. You will use these "ears" of foil to lift out your candy after it has cooled and hardened.
4. Spray the inside of the foil with Pam or another nonstick cooking spray.
5. Open the can of sweetened, condensed milk and pour it into another microwave-safe bowl.
6. Place the 2 cups of butterscotch chips on the top.
7. Stir everything up with a heat-resistant rubber spatula.
8. Set aside your spatula and microwave the contents of the bowl on HIGH for 2 minutes.
9. Let the bowl and its contents sit inside the microwave for 1 minute to cool.
10. Stir the contents of the bowl with your heat-resistant spatula to see if the chips are melted.  If you can stir the mixture smooth, you're ready to complete your candy.  If you can't stir the mixture smooth, microwave it on HIGH in 20-second increments followed by a 1-minute standing time until you can stir it smooth.
11. Quickly add your broken pieces of pretzels to the mixture in your bowl and stir them in.
12. Spread your Butterscotch |Crunch Candy out in your prepared pan.  Smooth it out on top with your heat-resistant spatula.

Hannah's 3rd Note: This is going to look lumpy.  That's because of the pretzels.

13. Place the pan in the refrigerator, uncovered, for at least 2 hours.
14. Take the pan out of the refrigerator, lift out the foil with the candy inside, and peel off the foil.
15. Cut your Butterscotch Crunch Candy into fudge-sized pieces.
16. Store the pieces in a covered container in the refrigerator.
17. Take the container out approximately 20 minutes before you want to serve your Butterscotch Crunch Candy.
Yield: 2 to 3 dozen pieces of delicious candy that both adults and children will love.  The number of pieces depends, of course, on how large you cut them.

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These next five recipes come from Joanne Fluke's book 'Wedding Cake Murder' where Hannah Swensen says, "I Do."

Easy Lemon Pie
Preheat oven to 350 degrees F., rack in the middle position.

Note from Grandma Knudson: I got this recipe from my friend, Lois Brown, who lives in Phoenix, AZ.  She has a lemon tree in her backyard so she always has lemons to make this pie.

Hannah's 1st Note: You can make this recipe in a food processor or a blender.  We use a food processor down at The Cookie Jar.

1 frozen 9-inch piecrust (or one you've made yourself)
1 whole medium-size lemon
1/2 cup butter ( 1 stick, 4 ounces, 1/4 pound)
1 cup white (granulated) sugar
4 large eggs
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Sweetened whipped cream to put on top of your pie before serving

1. If you used a frozen pie crust, take it out of the package and set it on a cookie sheet with sides while you make the filling for the pie.
2. If you made your own pie crust, roll it out, put it in a 9-inch pan, cut it to fit the pie pan, and crimp the edges so it looks nice.  Then set it on a cookie sheet with sides to wait for its filling.
3. Cut the tough ends off your lemon.  Cut it in half and then cut each half into 4 slices.  (The slices should be round like wagon wheels.)
4. Cut the other half-lemon into 4 similar slices to make 8 slices in all.
5. Examine the slices and pick out any seeds.  Throw the seeds away.
6. Place all 8 seedless slices in a blender (or a food processor.)
7. Turn on the blender or food processor and process the lemon slices until they are mush.  (This is not a regular cooking term, but I bet you know what I mean!)
8. Melt the half-cup of butter in the microwave or on the stove top.  (If you'd rather do it in the microwave, this should take about 50 seconds on HIGH.)
9. Pour the melted butter over the lemon mush in the blender.
10. Add the cup of white sugar.
11. Crack open the 4 eggs and add them one by one.
12. Turn on the blender or food processor and blend everything until it is a homogeneous mush.  (Another non-regulation cooking term.)
13. Pour the lemon mixture into the crust.
14. Bake your Easy Lemon Pie at 350 degrees F. for 40 minutes or until the mixture turns solid and the top is brown.
15. Take your pie out of the oven and cool it on a cold stove burner or a wire rack.  Once it is cool, cover it with foil or plastic wrap and refrigerate it until you are ready to serve.

Hannah's 2nd Note: I like to use my Creme Fraiche on this pie. Here's the recipe just in case you don't have it handy.

Hannah's Whipped Creme Fraiche
(This will hold for several hours.  Make it ahead of time and refrigerate it.)

2 cups heavy whipping cream
1/2 cup white (granulated) sugar
1/2 cup sour cream (you can substitute unflavored yogurt, but it won't hold as well and you'll have to do it at the last minute)
1/2 cup brown sugar (to sprinkle on top after you cut your pie into pieces)

1. Whip the cream with the white sugar until it holds a firm peak.  Test for this by shutting off the mixer, and "dotting" the surface with your spatula.  Once you have firm peaks, gently fold in the sour cream.  You can do this by hand or by using the slowest speed on the mixer.
2. Transfer the mixture to a covered bowl and store it in the refrigerator until you are ready to serve your Easy Lemon Pie.
3. To serve your pie, cut it into 6 generous pieces or 8 smaller pieces and put each piece on a pretty dessert plate.
4. Top each slice with a generous dollop or two of Hannah's Whipped Creme Fraiche.
5. Sprinkle the top of the Whipped Creme Fraiche with brown sugar.

Hannah's 3rd Note: If you want to get really fancy, cut a paper thin slice of lemon, dip it in granulated sugar, and put it on top of each slice of pie.

Butterscotch Sugar Cookies
Preheat oven to 325 degrees F., rack in the middle position.

2 cups salted butter (4 sticks, 16 ounces, 1 pound)
1 cup butterscotch chips (I used Nestle Butterscotch Chips)
2 cups powdered (confectioner's) sugar (pack it down in the cup when you measure it)
1 cup white (granulated) sugar
2 large eggs
2 teaspoons vanilla extract
1 teaspoon baking soda
1 teaspoon cream of tartar (critical!)
1 teaspoon salt
4 and 1/4 cups all-purpose flour (not-sifted - pack it down in the cup when you measure it)
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1/2 cup white sugar in a bowl for coating the cookie dough balls that you will make.

1. Melt the butter and butterscotch chips in a microwave-safe bowl by putting the chips on the bottom of the bowl and the butter on top of that.  Heat for one minute on HIGH, let the bowl sit in the microwave for one minute, and then try to stir it smooth.  If you can, you're done.  If you can't, continue to heat in 30-second increments followed by a standing time of one minute, until you can stir the mixture smooth.  (You can also do this in a saucepan on the stove top at LOW heat.)
2. After you have stirred the mixture smooth, set it on the kitchen counter or on a cold burner to cool.
3. When the mixture has cooled to slightly above room temperature, pour it into a mixing bowl or the bowl of an electric mixer.
4. Add the powdered sugar and the white sugar.  Beat until the mixture is smooth.
5. Add the eggs, one at a time, beating after each addition.
6. Mix in the vanilla extract.  Make sure it's well combined.
7. Add the baking soda, cream of tartar, and salt.  Mix until everything is thoroughly combined.
8. Add the flour in half-cup increments, mixing after each addition.  You don't have to be precise - just divide your flour into roughly 4 parts.  (One very important reason for adding the flour in increments is so that the whole mountain of flour won't sit there on top of your bowl and erupt like a volcano all over your kitchen when you try to combine it with all the other ingredients.)
9. Once the dough has been thoroughly mixed, prepare your cookie sheets by spraying them with Pam or another non-stick cooking spray.  Alternatively, you can line them with parchment paper.
10. Place a half-cup of white sugar in a shallow bowl.
11. Roll one-inch cookie dough balls with your fingers.  (You can also use a 2-teaspoon scooper to form the dough balls.)
12. Dip the dough balls in the bowl with the sugar and roll them around until they're coated.

Hannah's 1st Note: Work with only two or three cookie dough balls at a time.  If you put more than that in the sugar at a time, they may stick together.

13. Place the dough balls on the cookie sheet, 12 dough balls to a standard-size sheet.
14. Flatten the dough balls with the back of a metal spatula.  This will make them bake evenly.  If you leave them on the cookie sheet as dough balls, they will flatten out during the baking process, but the insides will be chewy instead of melt-in-your-mouth crispy.
15. Bake the Butterscotch Sugar Cookies at 325 degrees for 13 to 15 minutes.  (Mine took 14 minutes.)
Yield: approximately 5 to 7 dozen fudgy Butterscotch Sugar Cookies.

Lisa's Note: Herb says these cookies are like potato chips. You can't eat just one.  They also hold up really well if you stick several in around the sides of a dish of vanilla or chocolate ice cream.

Peanut Butter Potato Chip Cookies
Preheat oven to 350 degrees F., rack in the middle position.

The following recipe can be doubled if you wish.  Do not, however, double the baking soda.  Use one and a half teaspoons.

1 cup softened butter (2 sticks, 1/2 pound, 8 ounces)
2 cups white (granulated) sugar
3 Tablespoons molasses
2 teaspoons vanilla
1 teaspoon baking soda
2 beaten eggs (just whip them up in a glass with a fork)
2 cups crushed salted potato chips (measure AFTER crushing) (I used regular thin unflavored Lay's potato chips)
2 and 1/2 cups all-purpose flour (pack it down in the cup when you measure it)
1 and 1/2 cups peanut butter chips (I used Reese's, a 10-ounce by weight bag.  I know that's close to 2 cups, but I like lots of peanut butter chips in these cookies)

Lisa's Note: The butter in this recipe should be at room temperature unless you have an un-insulated kitchen and it's winter in Minnesota.  In that case, you'd better soften it a little.

Hannah's 1st Note: 5 to 6 whole cups of whole potato chips will crush down into about 2 cups.  Crush them by hand in a plastic bag, not with a food processor.  They should be the size of coarse gravel when they're crushed.

1. Mix the softened butter with the white sugar and the molasses.  Beat them until the mixture is light and fluffy, and the molasses is completely mixed in.
2. Add the vanilla and baking soda.  Mix them in thoroughly.
3. Break the eggs into a glass and when them up with a fork.  Add them to your bowl and mix until they're thoroughly incorporated.
4. Put your potato chips in a closeable plastic bag.  Seal it carefully (you don't want crumbs all over your counter) and place the bag on a flat surface.  Get out your rolling pin and roll it over the bag, crushing the potato chips inside.  Do this until the pieces resemble coarse gravel.  (If you crush them too much, you won't have any crunch - crunch is good in these cookies.)
5. Measure out 2 cups of crushed potato chips and mix them into the dough in your bowl.
6. Add one cup of flour and mix it in.
7. Then add the second cup of flour and mix thoroughly.
8. Add the final half cup of flour and mix that in.
9. Measure out a cup and a half of peanut butter chips and add them to your cookie dough.  If you're using an electric mixer, mix them in at the slowest speed.  You can also take the bowl out of the mixer and stir in the chips by hand.
10. Let the dough sit on the counter while you prepare your cookie sheets.
11. Spray your cookie sheets with Pam or another nonstick cooking spray, or line them with parchment paper, leaving little "ears" at the top  and bottom.  That way, when your cookies are baked, you can pull the paper, baked cookies and all, onto a wire rack to cool.
12. Drop the dough by rounded teaspoons onto your cookie sheets.  12 cookies on each standard-sized sheet.

Hannah's 2nd Note: I used a 2-teaspoon cookie scoop at The Cookie Jar.  It's faster than doing it with a spoon.

13. Bake your Peanut Butter Potato Chip Cookies at 350 degrees F. for 10 to 12 minutes or until nicely browned.  (Mine took 11 minutes.)
14. Let the cookies cool for 2 minutes on the cookie sheet and then remove them with a metal spatula.  Transfer them to a wire rack to finish cooling.
Yield: Approximately 5 dozen wonderfully chewy, salty, and soft cookies that are sure to please everyone who tastes them.

Hannah's 3rd Note: DO NOT bake these for anyone with a peanut allergy!

Lisa's Note: These cookies travel well.  If you want to send them to a friend, just stack them, roll them up like coins in foil, and cushion the cookie rolls between layers of Styrofoam peanuts, or bubble wrap.



I loved writing this blog and I hoped you enjoyed reading it.  All of the credit goes to Joanne Fluke and her award winning Hannah Swensen's Murder Mystery books with recipes.  Go check them out at your local library and you'll see what I mean! If you happen to try one or more of these recipes out, leave a comment below, letting me know how it went.  I would love to know!  Thank you so much!


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